Men – Upgrade Your Sex Life for A Steal

True deals don’t come along very often. My friend Aaron Nichols is offering what is truly a “big deal.” He is sharing his secrets for giving women incredible pleasure, information that will significantly upgradr your sex life, for practicially nothing.

Here is his link:
http://effingineffable.blogspot.com/2013/03/good-handz-101-37-payment-link_15.html

For $37 (limited time) you can discover all his insights. Aaron’s program is heart-centered, thoughtful and he speaks from real experience.

This isn’t boilerplate “push here, push there” technique that you can find through a Google search. This is the “good stuff” people pay VERY good money to learn (if they even know were to look).

For less than taking your date to some movie she’ll never remember, you could be the man she never forgets.

Oh, but I’m sure you have better uses for that $37… you know, buying drinks for women who never call back, that March Madness pool at the office, a tee shirt with a stick figure on it, that parking ticket because you forgot to move you car (D’Oh!)

… Or you could invest this small amount in yourself. It’s up to you.

http://effingineffable.blogspot.com/2013/03/good-handz-101-37-payment-link_15.html

Oh and it *might* help you attract someone in the first place. But don’t let that influence your decision

(And I get nothing for doing this, save the satisfaction of helping a friend… which is pretty cool, and more rewarding than money… but I’m not getting paid, if commerce is a limiting issue for you.)

Making Your Dreams a Reality – Discovering Your Dharma

 

Purpose. Dharma. Your highest calling. The divine connection that guides your actions with power and gives meaning to your life. With it, you are literally doing God’s work, powerful, strong, engaged, fulfilled as a man. Without it, you’re like the other shadowy slacker husks of men walking the world, lost in distraction, henpecked by frustrated and unfulfilled women in your life, life going nowhere.

There are a lot of guys – boys, really – who have figured out how to “create attraction” and pick up girls. You don’t have to be a real man to get laid a lot, and most of these little pricks out there talking about “alpha male” are walking around with no purpose and no integrity apart from their commitment to get laid and brag about it to others to gain status. And what happens to these guys? Well, the stories are very similar – they get good at picking up women, but often suck at choosing and keeping women. Sure they get laid a lot, which is a big deal if you’re someone whose not getting laid much and feels he has a lack of options, but their lives are filled with drama – messed up relationships (if they can even maintain a relationship), messed up friendships, train-wreck-coming-from-miles-away behavior, such as the new trend of little boy PUAs showing off porn actress girlfriends with a fuckload of their own issues and then, gee, what a surprise, it goes ugly.

If you run around treating women as some kind of distraction from the reality of your life – and God knows, I did this – you’re still going to find yourself looking in the mirror years from now and wondering what the fuck happened to your life. Or you’ll marry one of your bad decisions and you’ll suck the life out of each other, becoming part of the walking dead of suburbia.

A man filled with a sense of purpose is always growing, always alive, and always living a fulfilling life as his divine mission. But how does a man find his purpose, his Dharma?

Some men – many who find me – are doing some form of “inner game,” spirituality, “consciousness raising” and feeling a lot of internal shifts. They’ve decided, and I agree percent, that their problems with “dating women” are part of a larger issue and that the solution lies within. And this is true – change from the inside and that will manifest the awesome reality you want.

So maybe you’re doing this, and maybe you’re finding levels of bliss, clearing out demons from the past, you’re creating this amazing new you, but in your external world… NOTHING’S HAPPENING! Inside you’re awakened, and outside life goes on largely unchanged.

What the hell? When is this going to “come together?” If this is about the Law of Attraction, why isn’t this attracting anything?

A lot of spirituality and inner reprogramming adopts a passive attitude of inner contentment, that the goal is to appreciate and accept yourself and the world you live in and you’ll feel happy while nothing actually changes. I’m not going to argue that inner peace is the ultimate goal, but I will argue that true inner peace is not a state attained by sitting in a monastery, meditating under a tree or on your sofa, reading books, watching videos and doing nothing. Yes, meditation, natural grounding, spirituality will elevate your consciousness, but I believe only a life being actively lived and aligned with that consciousness can lead to inner peace. It’s not enough to feel peace, you have to be peace, and that requires an active living of your divinity in the world.

Plus, guys start noticing, gee, none of these spiritual gurus is getting laid much. Their sexuality is muted or often entirely repressed, and an open and awakened sexuality is critical to acting as a divine being in the world – you need to be completely embodied.

So how do we take that spiritual consciousness and bring it into the physical world? How do we take all that divine energy and create in the world the life, the love, the sex, the fulfillment that you need and deserve, to truly live as a man instead of an unconscious “PUA” dumbass or some pathetic, castrated Spiritual New Age Guy who makes women (and men) want to puke?

It’s Dharma. Life purpose. Cultivating divine purpose into meditation, and your entire way of being, creates the action. It’s inertia – if you’re used to being a certain way, you need some force, some energy, to move you in a different direction. The more powerful the energy, the greater the change.

Most guys want to get away from something or have low-level reasons for change. An average guy wants to stop feeling lonely, or he wants to prove to the “cool kids” who picked on him in school that he’s worthy now. I know – I used to be motivated by things like that, too. And what would happen is I’d get “good enough” and plateau, or I’d get frustrated and depressed and think I’d never be good enough.

This path usually leads to some kind of resignation or failure mode. Either the guy settles for some level of “success” and moves on to other things, or keeps going from teacher to teacher, thinking that’s the solution is in the hands of some mythical guru. Often the guy ends up medicating himself in some way – spiritualism, inner contentment, distractions, unsatisfying relationships – while his life never actually goes anywhere.

Yep. Guilty as charged of these things as well.

Then I began bringing in my highest purpose into my natural grounding sessions, my meditations, and how I went about my day. And that’s when things began to change. I didn’t know intellectually what my dharma was – it’s still not clear at that level. I brought the intention to feel my highest purpose, to be connected to my highest purpose. That changed my meditations and began to drastically change how I’m being in the world.

Step One: Decide to Connect to Your Highest Purpose

I’m going to step on some toes here. I don’t believe a man should have a clearly-articulated description of his highest purpose. It is a spiritual calling, and spiritual connection requires a fading of the ego. Creating a written, logically thought-out purpose negates that connection, until a man has had a chance to fully connect to his inspiration at an unconscious level.

So the first step is to meditate and connect to source with the intention of connecting to divine purpose. Even saying “I am connected to my highest purpose. I am living my divine purpose. I feel my highest purpose inside me.” Saying these mantras while connecting to divine source will evoke this connection.

Step Two: Expand the Feeling of Divine Purpose

Again, without trying to articulate or judge your dharma, notice this connection. It’ll likely feel faint and fuzzy at first, but something about it will feel “right,” you’ll get a sense that this is your purpose. Ask this feeling to come closer, welcome the feeling while in a state of divine connection. Ask this divine purpose to guide your thoughts and actions, to create the things you need to fulfill your dharma.

Step Three: Notice the Reflections of Your Dharma in the World

As you do steps one and two more and more, you’ll notice things in the world resonating with you in a new way. New things will evoke inspiration, and you’ll find yourself doing new things with certainty and strength. Notice these reflections, this is your divine purpose revealing itself to you.

Most men are not ready to come face to face with their highest purpose. The ego will seek to sabotage us, to lead us off course. Because our highest purpose will demand us to leave our comfort zone and go where it calls us, and the ego likes safety, predictability and the illusion of certainty. In time, a man learns there is no such thing as certainty apart from his highest purpose, and that all the safety of inaction is also an illusion. The only true life is the one lived with purpose, but the ego will resist until it has no choice but to relent and accept this truth. That’s why it’s important to approach this from outside the egoic mind.

So notice where your dharma is reflected in the world, but avoid the temptation to make quick judgments about the nature of your divine purpose.

Step Four: Make Changes to Align with Dharma

As you evoke your dharma and notice its reflection in the world, begin adjusting your behavior, thoughts, beliefs, relationships and energy to receive more of those reflections. Notice that small voice calling you to do something different than you normally do and learn to follow that voice without hesitation or thought. Be in the moment, respond to what your divine purpose is placing in front of you intuitively.

Step Five: Notice Places of Resistance

As a man notices where his highest purpose is showing up, he’ll also feel the resistance of his ego and the relationships in his purposeless life pulling him away. He’ll begin to feel tensions and resistance from people who don’t want him to change. He’ll feel emotions and habits from within pulling him off track. This may seem frustrating, but this is actually a positive sign – if a man isn’t changing there would be no resistance. It might be difficult to let go of these attachments, and the emotional turmoil can be intense, but stick with the process – keep evoking dharma, keep connecting to source, keep aligning to divine purpose.

There may be periods where you’ll feel you’re off track, where you’re backsliding. Simply remember this is a process and keep going, keep noticing. While you’re frustrated about your growth in one area, you’re likely overlooking your divine purpose showing up in other areas. That frustration is your ego seeking to take control.

For instance, today I was feeling sluggish and stymied, all kinds of resistance. I wasn’t feeling my powerful, outgoing, connective self. I wasn’t feeling all that creative, either. Then I took a look at this article I’d started and found a new inspiration, a new reflection of my dharma. And as I’ve been writing, my energy has been coming back.

Remember, dharma is BIG, it’s bigger than ourselves. If you’re feeling stuck in one area, it may be your opportunity to expand your purpose into another area you’ve neglected. And when you take that step back and explore other parts of your life picture, suddenly the tool you need to solve your original problem will appear.

Step Six: Reconnect, Recommit, and Refine

Continue to connect to source, to your essence. Continue to elevate your consciousness and elevate your energetic levels. Continue to evoke your divine purpose and strengthen your commitment to serving that purpose. And every day gain more clarity on your purpose. Notice where the picture and feelings become more clear. As your connection to your dharma becomes stronger, you’ll begin to naturally use your logical mind to articulate parts of your divine purpose as they become more clear. Realize those articulations are one part of your purpose, and a rough draft at that. Hold no attachment for those writings, use them only as guidelines and markings on your path, not the path itself.

15-Minute Miracle

This is fucking amazing. From Dr. Joe Vitale:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Auuw0KJ5nF4&feature=share&list=PL2EF1A402A6947BAE

It’s the most profound releasing experience. Take responsibility for everything in your life. Then speak directly to the divine and say

“I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.”

Do this while doing EFT and the release will be MIND BLOWING!

 

AWAKENING!

I read through Rion Freeberg’s “101 Questions,” designed to awaken the reader. I felt a ton of shifts, I felt a sense of profound freedom, and by the end I felt like a snow globe that has been shaken up with snowflakes flying everywhere. Then I watched this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKHUkv1wUnw&feature=share&list=PL2EF1A402A6947BAE

My thoughts, as all this swirls around:

Why can’t we let the future evolve and enjoy its evolution? So much time spent on the future or the past, so little on the present.

My dharma has been pointing me to “building bridges” into the physical world. My life has been a disconnect between my fantasy of “self-improvement” and my reality. A disconnect between my fantasy of social standards and my value and my spiritual worth. My disconnect between the life I want and the life I have.

All this “elevated consciousness” feels fake and temporal until there are bridges in the world. And as I’ve expanded my consciousness these past few weeks, as I’ve connected to my dharma, I’ve felt a strong pull to build bridges into the physical world, to manifest tangible results in the world. And I’ve begun building some bridges and seen immediate results.

And then, I read this from Rion on the board:

Find a ‘bridge’ to bring them into your ‘higher’ knowing of reality. Hosting your Own parties in YOUR reality.

 

If you’re at a higher level of consciousness, you can help bring others up out of the drudging misery of work-a-day living and the lower reality by being outgoing, social, life of the party, just bringing happiness, radiance and goodness – without having to succumb to a lower experience of reality (disconnection, apathy, boredom, prejudice, vindictiveness, disattachment, etc.).

 

And then build upon YOUR version of reality bringing awesome people up into it by reinforcing your experience of reality so you have something concrete to know and believe ‘works’. Have that experienced knowing becomes more important and valued to you and others than the disconnection and separation you see out there. Carry that higher ‘connected’ awakening effect on others with you in your state and energy. YOU are the party and where it’s at. Is your reality stronger or theirs? You already FEEL yours is b/c of your Awakening sessions…find ways to invite others into your party.

 

And my first reaction was sadness, self-pity, and a belief “this will never happen for me. From Rion:

This will come up again; the gap between Awakening and the ‘real world’…you become the cause that is convicted in your level of reality and bring others into it; it’s all about which has more power so even walking in the drudgery you can be in a higher state and not be affected into lower ones.

 

My mind is spinning from the “101 Questions” and I’m reading this, in alignment with my dharma, and having an ego reaction. Then this from the board:

Put yourself in situations where you still feel uncomfortable (ex talking to beautiful women you don’t know) and practice letting go “live” any attachment to the outcome.

Become a master at releasing on the fly until it becomes automatic

And this from the video:

Don’t be afraid to be kind to people, to give people the benefit of the doubt, to be compassionate.

And I see my reflection in this response to one of my posts on the board:

Householder:

Right now you would not understand the answer. Please come back after you have cultivated your heart toward qualities like Lovingkindness, gratitude, and generosity regardless of sensory appearances, and in doing so rid the mind of the defilements such as hatred, anger, greed, entitlement, delusion. Then tell me that it is so. I will trust in your beautiful honesty. Then, I will happily bestow upon you this great wisdom.

Getting past the initial reaction of anger (or annoyance, which is a form of anger), he’s got a point. The “householder” title is disturbingly accurate. My annoyance is a reaction to my reflection. I’ve been feeling the “panic attacks” over not having bridges, feeling constrained in the world while my consciousness expands when I’m alone, feeling this disconnect with the life I really want.

I’ve been sitting with the panic attacks, sitting with my reflections, consciously responding. Then it hits me – this connection to oneness IS my bridge to the physical world. The reality is there is a dam between my connective flow and my outward expression, another example of hiding my true nature away from the world. Let go of the dam of illusion and allow my connection to flow.

Everything in my past is an illusion in the now. It does not exist. All that exists is now. And now my spirit is overflowing. It’s all a choice. Right now I can decide to bring out my loving, spiritual, sexual, awakened energy as my blessing to the world, that my relationship to the world isn’t one of fear and worry about reaction, it’s loving expression of my spiritual and sexual connection, my blessing to the world. THAT’s my dharma, that’s my truth.

And it’s fucking easy, rising above the lower consciousness of fear and worry and reactive energy, flowing energy forth into the world, giving my energy to awaken others, expanding in all directions.

I used to wake up at night with anxiety. I’d feel awesome at night with my meditation, sleep, then build anxiety in my sleep and wake up anxious. This morning I woke up early, inspired – YES, I’m bigger than all this. I’m the expression of one love. I can resonate for millions, I can bless entire cultures with my energy. There are no limits.

Wow… mind-blowing life change.

On Calm

Happiness is as a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you. – Nathaniel Hawthorne

The way to use life is to do nothing through acting. The way to use life is to do everything through being. – Lao-Tzu

My First Reiki Experience

Another step in a new direction on my path, this one a Reiki session. Wow, I feel so relaxed, my energy so clear. Just what I needed! We’ll see what the effects are in the next few days. So glad I’m stepping out of the box, definitely a key to my new path.

Getting Things Done

As I’ve been connecting more to my Dharma, to my highest purpose, continuing my journey through “The Presence Process,” I’m stepping more and more into my masculinity. I’m taking care of things around me, even my son’s soccer where I gently but firmly defused “bossy mom.”

And I’ve been getting things done. I’ve attacked the pile of crap on my desk at home, sorting things out, throwing things away, putting books in “read now” and “storage/ give away” piles. I’ve finished two books this week “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover” and “Dangerous Men, Adventurous Women.” Actually finished three, also
“The Zen Teachings of Huang Po.” I created an inspiration board and began reading “My Secret Garden” and “Fifty Shades Darker.”

I’ve been putting a lot of things off for a long time. This feels much more solid, real, taking action. I’m examining the places where I’m falling short, but from a standpoint of being in my highest purpose.

I realize my insecurities, my limiting beliefs, are not aligned with my greatest purpose. I’m not throwing off people’s energy, I’m not scaring people. People crave my energy. It’s the right thing to do. This itself is a shift to something outside my personal self.

I see this coming back into my work here, a deeper sense of purpose, of taking care of people. No longer about me, about me succeeding or failing. There’s something I need to give to the world, and it’s time to get that thing done, too.